There are many romantice realtionships that will end up in the friend zone. It may be very frustrating for you that he only sees you as a friend because he can’t see how perfect you are together. You cannot believe he only wants to be friends or only sees you as a friend. He knows how well you get along, and how you can talk about anything. He has told you he feels closer to you than anyone else on earth. So then why won’t he pluck you out of the friend zone and make you his romantic partner?
You begin to wonder what else he needs to see or what else you can do to finally get out of the friend zone. You should be having a wonderful romance, yet you are stuck in his friend zone while he dates other women who are the complete opposite of you. He complains to you about his relationship disasters and dramas and you wonder if he is either blind or stupid. How can he not see what is right in front of him? How can he not know how perfect you both are for each other? Why didn’t he put the bimbos he has been dating in the friend zone instead of you? What is wrong with him?
There may not be anything wrong with her per say. He may just think that the reason you two get along so great is because you are only friends. He may think that if you got out of the friend zone and began dating, it would be an epic fail. You have become so important to him that he couldn’t bear to lose the friendship you have. But remember, he may not always feel the same. He may get tired of seeking out (and finding) all the wrong girls for him and take a chance on you. There may be some growing up he needs to do or some lessons he needs to learn first. It is so hard to see your soulmate make one relationship mistake after the other and wait patiently for him in the friend zone. So how do you knock some sense into him? Is there a way to get him to see you and your relationship the way he should?
You have already won him over as a friend and there may be nothing you can do to show him he needs to switch your zone. Pouring out your heart and soul can actually push him further away. Sure, it can get you out of the friend zone, but you could wind up in the “dead zone” because now he is so uncomfortable he can’t deal with you even as a friend. You don’t want to push your luck and push him away. It might be best to find other ways to get his attention rather than with a sudden outburst of emotion. Do you hug each other? Try to do that a little more often. Physical contact may bring about a physical response will may then trigger thoughts and emotions. Touch him in ways that appear friendly, and allow for friendly ways of showing affection without going overboard. Let him see you being affectionate with someone else. Jealousy is another way to get someone to realize their true feelings. Just don’t go overboard because that too can backfire
There are too many people who couldn’t hold it in any longer and just unload all their feelings on their friend all at once. They were not prepared for the consequences and hurt feelings. They not only got to hear that their feelings are not reciprocated, but now the friendship has changed or is non-existent. So do you and the one you think is your soul mate have a chance of making this work on another level? Can you leap out of this friend zone and into the romantic zone anytime soon?
Your patience has probably worn very thin at this point. You may have spent a lot of time searching for clues and for his innermost feelings but come up empty or more confused that ever. All relationships are in our lives to teach us lessons, and yours could simply be to learn patience while he learns his lesson, because then you will be rewarded with being out of the friend zone for good.